How to Forgive Yourself

I’ve learned a valuable skill recently. It’s a skill that allows me to let go, find the joy in everyday moments, and move forward with confidence. The skill is self-forgiveness. Self-forgiveness was a recent skill I learned. While I was confident and hopeful about my future, I couldn’t forgive myself for past “mistakes” I’ve made. […]

5 Ways to Add Hope to Your Financial Situation

When I first picked up the joy study years ago, the first area I needed work on was my finances. I felt I had an impossible financial situation that put joy out of reach.  But in my first year of doing the study, something amazing happened . . . I learned how joy can help […]

When People Think Hope is Making Them Happier (But It’s Not)

A few years ago, a fellow mentor in the entrepreneur space told me hope was a poison that was killing businesses. This statement upended me. I thought hope was a good thing. Months later, I understood the context my mentor was referring to, and it opened my eyes to hope.  There is both a healthy […]

When Your Expectations Make You Unhappy, Do This

Should is a dangerous word.  Whenever I catch myself saying life should be a certain way, I pause and quickly challenge that thought. I know it’s an unhealthy place to be. When we stew in what life should be like, we dodge responsibility for changing what life is currently like.  “Should” language often arises from […]

How to Give Up the Fear of Failure

Someone recently asked me: “What’s different in you?” They were acknowledging my success at work, my passion for life, and my overall joy. They had noticed a shift in me, but couldn’t tell what made the difference. I, however, knew exactly what it was. “I don’t fear failure as much as I used to,” I […]

6 Ways to Help Someone Contemplating Suicide

I’ve felt the sting of suicide loss before. I’ve gone through the thoughts that tried to make sense of it. I’ve asked the question, “was there anything I could’ve done to help?”  Unfortunately, these questions and thoughts have been replaying in my mind more often now.  In 2017, suicide was the 10th leading cause of […]

What to Do with Competing Life Philosophies

“That’s not what I want for us,” I told my wife as we walked along the shores of a quiet beach. Every now and then I pause long enough to see what sort of future I’m creating for our family. When we were walking along that beach, enjoying the stillness of vacation, I realized I […]

The Real Reason You Struggle to Change Your Negative Beliefs

All problems begin in our heads. It’s true. Problems are not problems until we think they are problems.  Many people look at the world and see external obstacles blocking them from their dreams. But many times, it is our negative beliefs dictating what is an obstacle or not. This is why it’s important to snuff […]

3 Tiny Actions Feeding Your Negativity Without You Realizing It

In an increasingly cynical society, much of the negativity we let into our lives is unconscious.  Negativity seeps past our awareness filters and then colors our attitude, emotions, thoughts, and actions. If we don’t want to fuel our life with negativity, we have to increase our awareness of the things adding negativity in our life. […]

Are You Outsourcing Your Belief?

I spent years of my life needing everybody’s approval before I could go out and do my work in the world. I thought this was natural, that everybody needed this for success. But it turns out, craving everybody’s approval is the fastest way to burnout. When you need people’s approval to do ambitious work, you’re […]