How the 5 Rules for Joy Can Help You Stick to Positive Change

For years, I wanted to get out of debt. We started our marriage with over $200,000 in student loan debt. The more I sat with it, the more negative I felt about it. It wasn’t until I started applying positive psychology discoveries to my life that everything began to change. We paid off half of […]

10 Signs You Need to Clear Your Mind

Today’s culture is getting faster, busier, and more overstimulating.  Our cellphones deliver us a constant barrage of pings and notifications. Our schedules easily get filled with events and activities, and our brains hold the to-dos we can’t fit on our schedules. And above all of this, we’re connected to a global network that shows us […]

How to Solve Your Overwhelming Life with Small Actions

When you’re a kid and you bite off more than you can chew, your parent corrects you. But when you’re an adult, no one is there to correct you. You bite off more than you can chew, then use your “crash-and-burn” as evidence for not trying again. Of course, I’m not talking about eating. I’m […]

Stop Fearing the Day Ahead. Do This Instead.

I’ve adopted a recent habit that is changing how I approach my days. When I wake up, the first thought I have is about how exciting the day ahead will be. This is a stark contrast to how most of us wake up in the morning and go to bed at night. Most of us […]

Beware of These 7 Sabotaging Mindsets if You Want Joy

When my last business had ended, I knew sabotage was at work. In a moment of woundedness, I blamed external forces outside of my control. The economy, the attention span of people, and advertising platforms all had my finger pointing at them. But after a few weeks of self-reflection, when I wasn’t as wounded as […]

Researchers Found 40% of Happiness Depends on This

The reason most people believe they can’t be happy or have joy is because they think they can’t change their circumstances. And so, they spend most of their time reacting to their uncontrollable circumstances. They would be right about one thing. For the most part, they can’t change their circumstances. Unexpected setbacks and uncontrollable circumstances […]

How You Explain Stress Determines How You’ll Get Through It

One of the most fascinating discoveries from my study on joy was that our thinking determines much of the results we reap in life. Many individuals believe their circumstances are the cause of their stress and unhappiness. But studies show that circumstances only affect 10% of our overall happiness. It is how we think about […]

This One Statement Will Help You Stick to Positive Habits

When I first started my study on joy, I asked the question: why is it much easier for people to stick to negative habits rather than positive habits? There are two reasons: Most of the negativity we experience is unconscious while positivity requires an intentional, conscious effort.  Most people are missing the plan for intentional […]

How to Design a Plan for Positivity

After studying joy for years now, I’ve learned that negativity is a corruptive, but common, force.  I define negativity as energy. By definition, energy has to flow somewhere. So whenever we feed ourselves negativity, that energy flows into our relationships, our work, our daily interactions, our parenting, etc.  When we allow negativity in, we allow […]

4 Things You Should Always Celebrate

When you’re a young child, you never forget your birthday. You count down the days until the event and maybe have a big party thrown in your honor. But as we get older, the excitement for our birthday fades. Over time, we learn to discount celebration all across the board. It’s as if we don’t […]